In a society where people don't expect to deal with each other again, a transactional mentality is rewarded. (i.e. "Screw you. I got mine.") That's common in large countries, sadly.
In small towns and small countries, people expect to deal with each other again and again, so a relationship orientation is rewarded.
One of the most noxious practices in American law enforcement is that of asset forfeiture.
Under this practice, if police even suspect that an asset — any asset; your money, your car, your family home — was involved in the commission of a crime, you can be deprived of it.
We have a tendency in the modern world to reduce everything to winning and losing. Then we make the outcome REALLY MATTER.
What if we could operate from a context of abundance; of having already won the most important of games, and then play lightheartedly?
How did the builders of Stonehenge know that this particular type of stone has those properties? They would have had to observe it, in considerable detail, over decades if not centuries to notice resistance to weather erosion. That would require either quantitative measurements and recording of same, or another method such as casting clay molds and making comparisons.
But why would they do the latter, unless they already had strong reason to suspect such durability?
Perhaps they already knew it resisted crumbling and flaking from experience with smaller pieces, and did not care about erosion. That may have been enough for them.
Reminds me of an old Chinese proverb: A farmer had a prize stallion. One day it broke free, and ran away. The neighbors said, bad luck. Who knows, replied the farmer. The next week, the horse returned, leading a pack of wild horses, who were then corralled and tamed. Good…